And now, a word from my children

I don’t remember how the conversation started, but a few days ago I found myself explaining to my children that, amongst all human beings, regardless of their race or culture, there is one common denominator for beauty: symmetry. This means that whether a culture measures beauty by fair or dark skin, light or dark hair, wide or narrow faces, big or little eyes, short or long noses, or whatever other physical markers that culture values, the one thing that each culture prefers within those norms is symmetry. And because symmetrical people tend to be better athletes, it’s no surprise that within each culture, we tend to find athletes attractive.  (I think this picture of David Beckham nicely makes my point.)

My children, especially my son, clearly absorbed this lesson well. Yesterday, he stopped and looked at my contemplatively. Then he said, “You know, Mom, since you began martial arts, you’re much more symmetrical. You look good.” My daughter chimed in with a hearty “He’s right.” I was charmed.

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  • Gringo

    ” Sharper than a serpent’s tooth..”

    The directness of children can cut both ways. Coming from your children, you know it wasn’t a false compliment. Kudos to you!

  • Ymarsakar

    Does that mean all the pain was worth it ? ; )

  • Tap

    It sure can cut both ways. I’ve had it from both directions from my kids, I know. Their honesty can be brutal or charming! :)

    So Book, are your kids involved in martial arts too? Mine started Jukido Jujitsu about 6 months ago and it has done wonders for them in so many ways – physically, mentally and otherwise…even their manners have improved.

    The other day, while reading something on the computer screen, I happened to say aloud “How rude!”

    My ten year old son chirped in with this comment: “Rudeness is a weak person’s imitation of strength!”

    When I asked him where he’d learned that he told me ‘from Sensei’. I get these little gems from him all the time, now. He’s learned the 7 tenets of his particular martial art and understands them as well. He told me that he was glad that I was practicing ‘benevolence’ the other day when I contributed a few cents to the elderly lady ahead of me in the grocery store when she was a bit short the other day.

    I’m telling you, this martial arts thing is MARVELOUS. His sensei, too, I think is particularly good.

  • Tap

    Oh, and Congratulations on looking particularly symmetrical, Bookworm!

  • suek

    What sweeties!

  • Thomas

    Hello Bookworm,

    That’s very sweet of them. :)

  • Bookworm

    Thanks for all your kind words. In answer to your question, Tap, my son is taking martial arts at this dojo. Since I’d done martial arts years before my kids were born, I started getting jealous watching his wonderful classes, and that’s how I reengaged. I was bad more than a decade okay, and I’m worse now, but I really love it.

    As for this dojo, I could not ask for a better place. In addition to teaching the kids martial arts techniques, and the discipline that goes with those skills, the dojo spends a part of every class giving the kids lessons about good behavior: respect, kindness, responsibility and honesty. My son’s behavior and personality have improved a thousand percent in the six months since he started. I just love the place.