Most of the people (but now things are changing) in India wants a baby boy over a baby gurl. The main reason is they want the son to carry forward their surname and to take care of their business.

I don’t have any brother, I have a sister and it never occurred to my parents mind to go for a baby boy. Like I said not all Indians are thinking the same. In fact, I have been witnessing so many families just having one baby gurl and not even going for the second child.

I can see where living in India could definitely change your perspective.

Guess there isn’t much chance that your friend with the business would consider training his daughters and/or their husbands to take over the business?

And as for your other friend…

What would be the custom regarding the man if she had chosen _not_ to have the abortion? Is there any legal responsibility? What is the custom regarding children and divorce?

I am from India and you must be aware of the fact that people here prefer male babies than female babies. I always oppose the abortion of a female fetus and feel very stronglyyyyyyy about it. One of my cousinz had to go through the same situation of aborting her female fetus because she already had a female child before. She was not willing to, but her husband ( I am not in talking terms with him because of his decision) is running a business and technically speaking he and his family were thinking about the future that who will take care of their business.

And second case, is one of my close friend who was having an affair and she became pregnant. The guy was not committed and she wanted to get married but the guy apposed and asked for abortion. So they went ahead and aborted the child. And within 2 weeks he got married and after a year or so he called my girlfriend and said he has become a father of a baby boy. I was so angry that day when she told me this. This guy was my friend and when she told me that she is pregnant and what this guy feels about it – I totally cut off from him.

I have 5 living children. I had one baby born dead after a full term, perfectly normal pregnancy(the cord came first, was compressed during the birth process, and he died from lack of oxygen). After the first, I never had a pregnancy I _wanted_, but I never had a baby I _didn’t_ want. God gives you nine months to get used to the idea. Sometimes you need all nine months, but 20 years later, the one you _wanted_ may be the one you wish you never had. (some 20+ years after that, you may change your mind once again!) Life is funny.

By the way… I had 5 male babies in a row. Care to do the statistics on that? .5 x .5 x .5 x .5 x .5

I am convinced that there is more to male/female thing than the genetic determination we presently think there is – but I have no idea what it is. Have you ever noticed how many famlies have multiple children of the same sex? But in the end, the male -female ration is still very close to 50-50. Amazing what we don’t know…

I am glad, Pooja, that you are thinking deeply about this. This is a tiny, helpless, innocent little life who struggles to be born. Millions of people have old, handicapped pet dogs, cats, horses that they lovingly care for.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BkKWApOAG2g

I am glad that I came across your blog today. You hardy find any blog that are thought provoking. From now on I will be your regular visitor:) I am adding your blog in my blogroll.

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Pooja – ( In case you are wonderin what does it mean – it means ” Prayer”)

Another true story: My dad always said that, when his time came, he was just going to lie down and die. What actually happened when he got cancer was that he fought for six years, taking advantage of every available treatment, no matter how horrible. His very last words, when a doctor asked him, “What can I do for you?” (meaning, “How can I make you comfortable?”) were “MAKE ME WELL.” The life force was strong.

You will find it weird… but I have tears in my eyes just by thinking that what if ” If I go through the same situation” I really don’t know what will I do at that point of time.

In the past number of times I shared my opinion on this topic.. but it never touched me like this the way it did this time. May be because I am married now and in few months I will also be planning a family. It’s a scary thought…there are certain things on which you can’t gain control.

Naah don’t be sorry. It’s just that if you feel strongly about something then it’s a natural thing to react!