In the past couple of days, I’ve read more than a few articles in which liberal women express incendiary anger about Sarah Palin. I blogged yesterday about Michelle Cottle’s screed, and today read equally over-the-top material from Judith Warner (h/t The Anchoress) and Heather Malick (h/t Small Dead Animals). In each of these articles, women complain that those who play by feminism’s rules are kicked in the teeth and that Quislings like Sarah Palin get rewarded with perks and praise. Never mind that their feminine ideal, Hillary, got ahead the old-fashioned way, by marriage. It was her rhetoric, not her conduct, that appealed.
I find the attitude these women express interesting, because I understand it so well. When I worked at my first law firm, I was a horrible employee because I had all these ideas that, as a woman who paid full (and sincere) lip service to feminism’s principles, I was entitled to special treatment. I couldn’t understand why the men who started the same year as I did were treated better and liked more — overlooking completely the fact that they worked harder, complained less, and contributed more. I was a woman! Didn’t “they” understand that?
Incidentally, I didn’t arrive at this self-serving, egotistical hubristic attitude on my own. My year was the year the law firm decided to embrace diversity and hired a large group of whiny women, African-Americans and gays.* We knew we were affirmative action hires but, instead of being grateful, we felt we were owed more than just a job. We expected to be coddled and given opportunities notwithstanding our failure to earn them.
As the years went by, we were horrified by how obvious it was that the firm powers didn’t like us. It never occurred to us that we were neither likable nor beneficial to the firm’s business. Eventually, I jumped ship for a different firm where, with a clean slate, I started to learn to be a lawyer and not a feminist. The rest of the malcontents with whom I’d worked were all fired summarily a short time later as part of a — ahem — “cost cutting” move.
Reading the articles to which I’ve linked, it’s apparent that many American women still live in the “you owe me” bubble. Worse, since they seldom get what they feel they’re owed, they find themselves embittered — and, sadly, without even having the countervailing consolation of guns and God.
*This is not to imply that women, gays and African-Americans are whiny. It is to say that this particular group of women, gays and African-Americans, all of whom believed they were entitled to special treatment because of their non-white male status, were in fact whiny.