End of an era

I’ve been a soccer Mom for the last six years.  Every fall, without fail, soccer has dominated our lives.  I think that era is finally over, though.

Neither of my kids qualified for competitive teams this year, and both refuse to do rec.  He wants to concentrate on baseball and martial arts; she wants to concentrate on swimming.

I think they’re making wise decisions, but I have to say that I’ll miss soccer.  I made few lasting friends during those six seasons, but I always made good seasonal friends.  I enjoyed the games tremendously because every weekend I got to get together with fellow parents, and sit in the sun and watch beautiful, healthy children run like the wind.

Of course, since both kids played competitive soccer last year, the privilege of watching them play meant driving about 200 miles every weekend and that, I can assure you, I will not miss.  Clouds and silver linings, all mixed together, and dusted heavily with nostalgia.

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  • Oldflyer

    Ha! Evolution of a parent.

    I sometimes comment that my daughter’s life revolves around my grand daughter’s soccer to the detriment of other priorities. My wife reminds me that for years we spent nearly every weekend with a horse trailer hooked to the station wagon.

    As long as the family is involved it is worth the effort. At present grand daughter, her twin brother– and her mother– are all playing soccer and supporting at each others games.

    Do you have any idea what time swimming practice starts each morning for serious competitors?

  • http://bookwormroom.com Bookworm

    As to your last question, it depends on the team. Some of them are morning, which is about 6 a.m.; some in the afternoon. Fortunately, my daughter’s on an afternoon team and at the beginning of the training curve. She seems to have an aptitude, though, so I imagine it taking over my life soon. Certainly, last summer, every Saturday was swim meet day. I liked the parents who attended, so a good time (mostly) was had by all.

  • Charles Martel

    My son played soccer for a couple of years and I enjoyed hanging out with other parents and making some delightful acquaintances.

    But the game itself bored me to distraction. While it might involve some rudimentary strategy, it mostly depends on luck and randomness. Maybe those things thrill third-world folks, but I find waiting for them to happen to be tedious. I prefer games where people take matters into their hands—literally—and therefore have to use their brains if they want to score points

    Rugby was invented in 1823 when a player on the soccer team at the college in Rugby, England, tired of trying to kick a frickin’ ball into the goal, decided to pick it up and carry it to the goal in his hands. Since he was the strongest kid on the team, as well as a bully, nobody told him he couldn’t. Thus, a new game.

    The bully part aside, I’m with him.

  • Danny Lemieux

    I know exactly how you feel, Book. I went through being a skating parent to a soccer parent to a martial arts parent to a senior high school sports parent. Great memories and it all went so fast. I miss it but I know that there is no going back…until I am a grandparent (I hope).

    Enjoy every moment that you can with them.

  • Gringo

    Soccer may be boring to some spectators, but it is fun as hell to play.

  • http://ymarsakar.wordpress.com/ Ymarsakar

    If he is going into Martial A, then you’ll have something in common once his teenage phase starts, Book ; )

  • colorless.blue.ideas

    For us, my wife and I are looking at the ending of the “band parent” era, when our youngest graduates from high school this May. Before that, it was “Chorus parent” and “Destination ImagiNation” (or Odyssey of the Mind) parent, which followed “4H parent” and “AKC Junior Showmanship parent”. And throughout, it was church youth group parent. (The soccer bug bit zero of our children.)

    I sincerely hope that my children have the opportunity to become “—– parents” for their own children.

    One final suggestion. If not soccer, find *something* worthwhile to volunteer for once you become an empty nester. (That leaves out “community activist” as currently understood! :-) My wife and I have continued on in support of our state Destination ImagiNation program, and have found it worthwhile.)