Comments on: The man I want my daughter to date *UPDATED* http://www.bookwormroom.com/2010/02/03/the-man-i-want-my-daughter-to-date/ Conservatives deal with facts and reach conclusions; liberals have conclusions and sell them as facts. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 06:19:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Bookworm Room » Proving that, contrary to all stereotypes (and some statistics), there are stupid Jews http://www.bookwormroom.com/2010/02/03/the-man-i-want-my-daughter-to-date/comment-page-1/#comment-136721 Bookworm Room » Proving that, contrary to all stereotypes (and some statistics), there are stupid Jews Wed, 14 Dec 2011 04:07:28 +0000 http://www.bookwormroom.com/?p=10695#comment-136721 [...] a little reminder that I think very highly of Tim Tebow, not just as a football player, but as a human being.  I hope this doesn’t mean I have to [...] [...] a little reminder that I think very highly of Tim Tebow, not just as a football player, but as a human being.  I hope this doesn’t mean I have to [...]

]]> By: Midwest Chick http://www.bookwormroom.com/2010/02/03/the-man-i-want-my-daughter-to-date/comment-page-1/#comment-88997 Midwest Chick Thu, 04 Feb 2010 14:58:53 +0000 http://www.bookwormroom.com/?p=10695#comment-88997 I don't know if this was planned by my school system or not, but it kept me from having sex at least until I was out of high school.  In seventh/eighth grade health classes, we had the VD movies--people with syphilitic sores and horror stories about becoming sterile and having parts fall off, complete with grainy video. That was followed up my sophomore year in high school with the childbirth film that, from a front-and-center point of view showed water breaking (one girl fainted), the episiotomy (two more down), and followed with the whole enchilada (we lost another one at that point I think).   With both of these in my consciousness, it made for a very effective abstinence program.   I don’t know if this was planned by my school system or not, but it kept me from having sex at least until I was out of high school.  In seventh/eighth grade health classes, we had the VD movies–people with syphilitic sores and horror stories about becoming sterile and having parts fall off, complete with grainy video.
That was followed up my sophomore year in high school with the childbirth film that, from a front-and-center point of view showed water breaking (one girl fainted), the episiotomy (two more down), and followed with the whole enchilada (we lost another one at that point I think).   With both of these in my consciousness, it made for a very effective abstinence program.
 

]]> By: Ymarsakar http://www.bookwormroom.com/2010/02/03/the-man-i-want-my-daughter-to-date/comment-page-1/#comment-88984 Ymarsakar Thu, 04 Feb 2010 14:27:10 +0000 http://www.bookwormroom.com/?p=10695#comment-88984 Suek, copy and paste the html link. For some reason, the link actually goes to the haloscan comment page of Grim's Hall, rather than to Rossy's site. Suek, copy and paste the html link. For some reason, the link actually goes to the haloscan comment page of Grim’s Hall, rather than to Rossy’s site.

]]> By: Lulu11 http://www.bookwormroom.com/2010/02/03/the-man-i-want-my-daughter-to-date/comment-page-1/#comment-88921 Lulu11 Thu, 04 Feb 2010 05:39:49 +0000 http://www.bookwormroom.com/?p=10695#comment-88921 Suek is right. Your daughter is far more likely to find this kind of guy in a religious community, whether observant Christian, Mormon or Jewish. There the value system supports sex within marriage (but often young marriages), girls dress modestly -and look really beautiful- and there isn't that kind of sad desperation you describe of middle schoolers performing sexual favors on campus to a line-up of boys. How sad, empty and pathetic. Parents MUST teach their children values. Having our kids associate with others with shared values helps a lot. Suek is right. Your daughter is far more likely to find this kind of guy in a religious community, whether observant Christian, Mormon or Jewish. There the value system supports sex within marriage (but often young marriages), girls dress modestly -and look really beautiful- and there isn’t that kind of sad desperation you describe of middle schoolers performing sexual favors on campus to a line-up of boys. How sad, empty and pathetic. Parents MUST teach their children values. Having our kids associate with others with shared values helps a lot.

]]> By: Wizbang http://www.bookwormroom.com/2010/02/03/the-man-i-want-my-daughter-to-date/comment-page-1/#comment-88887 Wizbang Thu, 04 Feb 2010 03:46:34 +0000 http://www.bookwormroom.com/?p=10695#comment-88887 <strong>Planned Parenthood responds to Tim Tebow's Super Bowl ad...</strong> Planned Parenthood has issued a reaction to the yet-to-be-seen Super Bowl ad Tim Tebow and his mom have made. This a pretty lame response, too. Even though this ad uses...... Planned Parenthood responds to Tim Tebow’s Super Bowl ad…

Planned Parenthood has issued a reaction to the yet-to-be-seen Super Bowl ad Tim Tebow and his mom have made. This a pretty lame response, too. Even though this ad uses……

]]> By: Kim Priestap’s Political Insights » Planned Parenthood responds to Tim Tebow’s Super Bowl ad http://www.bookwormroom.com/2010/02/03/the-man-i-want-my-daughter-to-date/comment-page-1/#comment-88886 Kim Priestap’s Political Insights » Planned Parenthood responds to Tim Tebow’s Super Bowl ad Thu, 04 Feb 2010 03:43:36 +0000 http://www.bookwormroom.com/?p=10695#comment-88886 [...] Bookworm has a great post about Tim Tebow. In it  she writes that she would love it if her daughter dated a man like him someday because of [...] [...] Bookworm has a great post about Tim Tebow. In it  she writes that she would love it if her daughter dated a man like him someday because of [...]

]]> By: jcb1979 http://www.bookwormroom.com/2010/02/03/the-man-i-want-my-daughter-to-date/comment-page-1/#comment-88883 jcb1979 Thu, 04 Feb 2010 03:18:45 +0000 http://www.bookwormroom.com/?p=10695#comment-88883 <a href="http://moviesfoundonline.com/sexy_inc.php" rel="nofollow">http://moviesfoundonline.com/sexy_inc.php</a> This movie is in perfect alignment with your opening salvo.  Free to watch online--about the hypersexualization of our youth (it's Canadian, and a bit graphic at times, but excellent). http://moviesfoundonline.com/sexy_inc.php
This movie is in perfect alignment with your opening salvo.  Free to watch online–about the hypersexualization of our youth (it’s Canadian, and a bit graphic at times, but excellent).

]]> By: lookingforlissa http://www.bookwormroom.com/2010/02/03/the-man-i-want-my-daughter-to-date/comment-page-1/#comment-88878 lookingforlissa Thu, 04 Feb 2010 03:01:27 +0000 http://www.bookwormroom.com/?p=10695#comment-88878 Not to trivialize, Book, but my approach towards my (hypothetical) daughters goes something like this: 1) If you make her cry, I will make you cry. 2) Don't do anything you wouldn't do in front of your parents.  In church. 3) I have ten acres, a shovel, and this shotgun.  Capiche? And yes, that works for sons too.  I've coolly turned away young women pursuing my brothers since I can remember.  A cold look and a snide remark can do wonders for restoring some much-needed decorum. Anecdotal evidence leads me to believe that would-be suitors of both young girls and young boys have their ardor substantially cooled by hard evidence that Mama knows her way around a 9 mm. Not to trivialize, Book, but my approach towards my (hypothetical) daughters goes something like this:
1) If you make her cry, I will make you cry.
2) Don’t do anything you wouldn’t do in front of your parents.  In church.
3) I have ten acres, a shovel, and this shotgun.  Capiche?
And yes, that works for sons too.  I’ve coolly turned away young women pursuing my brothers since I can remember.  A cold look and a snide remark can do wonders for restoring some much-needed decorum.
Anecdotal evidence leads me to believe that would-be suitors of both young girls and young boys have their ardor substantially cooled by hard evidence that Mama knows her way around a 9 mm.

]]> By: Earl http://www.bookwormroom.com/2010/02/03/the-man-i-want-my-daughter-to-date/comment-page-1/#comment-88852 Earl Thu, 04 Feb 2010 02:14:23 +0000 http://www.bookwormroom.com/?p=10695#comment-88852 Suek is right, Book....I'm quite sure that your daughter, lovely as I'm sure she is, wouldn't have a chance with Tim Tebow, because he's a committed Christian, and isn't likely to be dating someone who doesn't share that with him.  A big part of all those things you find so attractive in him is the result of his religious commitments....there's a lesson there!  :-)   One more thing....you don't *have* to resign yourself to watching your daughter "date", with all of the angst (and sometimes pain) that goes with it.  My sweet girl decided she would not - mainly from reading a book about courtship....I think it was one by Jim Ryun, but I can't find it on Amazon.  Here's a different book whose author interviewed Ryun, though: http://www.amazon.com/What-Daughter-Needs-Her-Dad/dp/0764228706/ref=sr_1_47?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1265249208&sr=8-47 It's about the importance of a father in a girl's life, and you need to remember that Mr. BW is going to have a LOT more to do with how things turn out for your little girl than you are....it's the way things work.   Anyhow, here's a book similar to what Laura had (I'm going to ask her if she remembers which one she read, and report back): http://www.amazon.com/Kissed-Dating-Goodbye-Joshua-Harris/dp/1590521358/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1265249267&sr=8-1 I will include your family in my prayers -- it's SO important, and our culture isn't helping decent families these days - it's actively working against you.  I tremble a bit for my sweet Sophia..... Suek is right, Book….I’m quite sure that your daughter, lovely as I’m sure she is, wouldn’t have a chance with Tim Tebow, because he’s a committed Christian, and isn’t likely to be dating someone who doesn’t share that with him.  A big part of all those things you find so attractive in him is the result of his religious commitments….there’s a lesson there!  :-)
 
One more thing….you don’t *have* to resign yourself to watching your daughter “date”, with all of the angst (and sometimes pain) that goes with it.  My sweet girl decided she would not – mainly from reading a book about courtship….I think it was one by Jim Ryun, but I can’t find it on Amazon.  Here’s a different book whose author interviewed Ryun, though:
http://www.amazon.com/What-Daughter-Needs-Her-Dad/dp/0764228706/ref=sr_1_47?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1265249208&sr=8-47
It’s about the importance of a father in a girl’s life, and you need to remember that Mr. BW is going to have a LOT more to do with how things turn out for your little girl than you are….it’s the way things work.
 
Anyhow, here’s a book similar to what Laura had (I’m going to ask her if she remembers which one she read, and report back):
http://www.amazon.com/Kissed-Dating-Goodbye-Joshua-Harris/dp/1590521358/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1265249267&sr=8-1
I will include your family in my prayers — it’s SO important, and our culture isn’t helping decent families these days – it’s actively working against you.  I tremble a bit for my sweet Sophia…..

]]> By: suek http://www.bookwormroom.com/2010/02/03/the-man-i-want-my-daughter-to-date/comment-page-1/#comment-88840 suek Thu, 04 Feb 2010 01:19:29 +0000 http://www.bookwormroom.com/?p=10695#comment-88840 Ymar... You didn't post a site.  I went to the one from the previous comment and searched as directed...nada.  Went to the City Journal article mentioned in the first comment, and while I agree with it...no December 12 comment either.   However...enjoy this little goodie. http://www.smilespedia.com/finding-a-husband/   Book...I know you are not a religious Jew.  Nevertheless...the type of man you want for your daughter is more likely to be a church attender than not.  I'd recommend that you find a synogogue - or church - that you can deal with and join.  And include your children.  Certainly there are good men out there who are not church members, but the odds that you'll find men who will be  good husbands and fathers increase if they're church goers. You understand what I'm saying...there are certainly good men who frequent bars - but if I were looking for husband material, I wouldn't start by looking in the bars.  It's a numbers/odds thing. Ymar…
You didn’t post a site.  I went to the one from the previous comment and searched as directed…nada.  Went to the City Journal article mentioned in the first comment, and while I agree with it…no December 12 comment either.
 
However…enjoy this little goodie.
http://www.smilespedia.com/finding-a-husband/
 
Book…I know you are not a religious Jew.  Nevertheless…the type of man you want for your daughter is more likely to be a church attender than not.  I’d recommend that you find a synogogue – or church – that you can deal with and join.  And include your children.  Certainly there are good men out there who are not church members, but the odds that you’ll find men who will be  good husbands and fathers increase if they’re church goers.
You understand what I’m saying…there are certainly good men who frequent bars – but if I were looking for husband material, I wouldn’t start by looking in the bars.  It’s a numbers/odds thing.

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