If you think marriage between a Democrat and a Republican is bad…

NPR reports that mixed marriages don’t work.  It’s not talking about mixed race or mixed religion, it’s about mixed politics.  Democrats and Republicans make for bad bedfellows.  What NPR doesn’t discuss is marriages in which one partner has a mid-marriage political conversion.  Believe me when I saw that doing so is as bad, if not worse than, having an affair.

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  • Texan99

    My parents were opposites politically; the only candidate they ever agreed on was Ross Perot.
     
    My husband and I both began as Democrats.  Around 1990, he started voting Republican for national office and Democrat locally, or vice versa, I can’t recall now.  Soon he began voting straight Republican.  We still got along fine.  A few years later, starting slowly with the nonsensical reaction to the Gingrich “government shutdown,” I started shifting to the Republican ticket as well.  By 1996, I had become pretty firmly Republican, and 9/11/2001 only sealed the deal.
     
    We don’t share a religion, either–just an unshakeable conviction to each other.

  • barbtheevilgenius

    My husband and I have a mixed marriage: I am a fan of the Cleveland Browns, he, the Pittsburgh Steelers.
     
    Fortunately, we share the same religion and have very similar political views. :)

  • http://bookwormroom.com Bookworm

    Texan99:  It’s so great that you and your husband can transcend your differences.

    And barbtheevilgenius:  sports team rivalries have caused more than one major battle on American streets.  ;)

  • Danny Lemieux

    I grew up in a bi-polar political household. My mother was staunch Republican, my father was hard left. They were very devoted to each other but it put a lot of strain on them. There were just so many things they could not discuss.
    Me? My wife is more Libertarian than I am but we are pretty close in our world views. It takes an enormous amount of stress out of the relationship. I thrive on stress in work and in my martial arts school. At home…not so much.

  • Danny Lemieux

    Mary Matelin and  “Ragin’ Cajun” James Carville, though…would love to know how they make it work so well. One does get the impression that they are totally devoted to one another.

  • Ron19

     “Maybe you’re just not as interesting as you think you are” 
     
    aka, Borrring.
     
    For reference, I thought “The Boys in the Band” was an excellent movie.

  • Mike Devx

    If a husband and wife both care deeply about politics and political philosophy, I don’t know how a mixed political marriage could work. I guess you’d have to agree to draw a boundary and keep politics out of your personal life, or else the two of them find so much else in common that they just refuse to let the political differences come between them.
     
    Whatever floats their boat!  But perhaps, as the differences between Democrats and Republicans have hardened over the years (or is it liberals vs conservatives?), that it *has* simply become harder for them to continue to respect and love each other.  Having the far-left Obama in office for eight years certainly hasn’t helped.  I bet if we got a Sarah Palin in office for eight years, there would be open warfare  between a far-leftie and conservative couple!

  • Ron19

    Ron19 #6:
     
    Sorry, I posted the comment to the wrong article.

  • Charles Martel

    I am a former Marxist, now conservative, married to a Yellow Dog Democrat. My wife is a sweet person, but is most comfortable living politically in 1972. Despite her great sense of humor and intelligence, she is like almost everybody I know who is on the left: She prefers life in the dark and reassuring warmth of the Democratic Party cloaca to existence in the clear light of day. If you’ve ever tried to pry a video game-addicted kid away from his pastime long enough to go out and smell some roses, you’ll understand how hard it is for me to get my better half to get up and head out to take a sun bath.
     
    I’m by far more of a political animal than she. So, in the interest of peace, and knowing that I cannot ever persuade her via logic or reason, I do not confront her on her ludicrous beliefs. All I do is bring up some example of mis/mal/disfeasance by our moral and intellectual superiors, make swift fun of it, then quickly move on to another topic. I intend to wear the woman out by innocently but relentlessly making the case that her White African American prince and his ass kissers are aliterate poseurs.
     
    Also, I’ve taken the fun out Book’s Demo-GOP marriage question by leaving the Republican Party. So now there is no tension between my wife and me in that respect.

  • http://ymarsakar.wordpress.com Ymarsakar

    A marriage is an alliance between individuals. There is no room for inviting in crazies and black wet work squads that work at cross purposes. Which is what politics inevitably leads to.
     
    It’s just that politics demands the loyalty of its members. Such that they don’t get to have any individual freedom vis a vis their partner. Your loyalty to the Left, demands everything. There can be no excuses about love or marriage here.
     
    The Left hasn’t activated such things yet. But they will.