The manly common denominator

This is an interesting NPR story about efforts to identify and deal with violently aggressive boys before they go postal.  A little tidbit buried in the story, and quickly passed over, is a denominator common to “most” (not just “many”) of these violent boys — they have no father in their lives.  Fathers matter.

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  • http://ymarsakar.blogspot.com/ Ymarsakar

    Aggression that is not controlled and focused, is self-destructive.

  • Joseph Libson

    I agree completely YM.

    Boys need to be taught what I call the “language of aggression”. That is a language that males *must* know in order to become good men. And in my experience, fathers are best equipped to teach that language.

    My sons’ friends who have weak fathers who don’t impose discipline tend to be little monsters.

    Too much aggression makes one type of monster out of a child. Too little makes a different type.

  • Trish

    Oddly enough, I think it’s more important for girls to have fathers.
    A girl who has a decent father isn’t going to put up with a thug for a New York minute.

  • erp

    All children need a man for a father, but not the wimp the left have set up as a template.

    What lefties call aggression in little boys is no more than the “aggression” puppies show to each other when they wrestle and romp. The top dog or pack leader (a little Cesar Millan lingo here) emerges from these early harmless struggles. All dogs are comfortable with this because it’a leaderless packs that lead to real aggression and real fights.

    Like puppies, boys are naturally rough and tumble. That’s how they learn to be strong men, you know, the type despised by the teachers unions, feminists and girly men. Boys aren’t built to sit in a classroom hour after hour like girl do. Boys need physical activity and lots of it.

    Teachers and others who work with kids need to be able to distinguish between aggression that is pathological and the normal behavior of boys . . . and for God’s sake let’s give boys plenty of opportunities to use their boundless energy and stop medicating them for being normal.

  • Jill

    In Bookworm’s world, the men have an inate capacity to “go postal” at any momemt. Scary, isn’t it?

  • http://ymarsakar.blogspot.com/ Ymarsakar

    It’s called being feral. Except the jungle is in the city.