The rich are different from you and me

Several years ago — in 2007, to be precise — at one of the kid’s sporting events, I met a very nice man.  Since we were stuck out in the boondocks for the day, we talked.  I learned that he and his wife had just filed for divorce.

Divorce is not an uncommon story, especially in Marin, but the thing about Marin is that sometimes the divorces are actually news.  Almost five years later, this couple finally resolved their differences and, owing to the amount of money involved, that settlement made the front page of the local paper.  It is worthwhile reading if you want to get a sense of serious money, and the way in which it makes for seriously bad divorces.

I will say only that, knowing both spouses very superficially, he is the more personable of the two, and both of them love their children very much.


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  • Danny Lemieux

    Well, it sounds as if the parents finally fixed their money problems and left their children irreparably scarred in the process. Nice.

    On a similar theme, my Sunday School class discussion with our middle schoolers (getting ready for High School) this past weekend was about using their God-given gifts in a way that was constructive and respectful without getting sidetracked by the seven deadly sins (Anger, Pride, Envy, Greed, Sloth, Gluttony, Lust) that lead to so much sadness and destruction. They got it. So many “adults” never do.

  • Beth

    I would say that they live differently! Wow!  But I would bet that once we took away all the ‘stuff’, their kids are not much different than mine in wanting parents who love each other and are willing to give up anything for their spouse and kids.
    A friend once said that divorce is taking the cross off your back and putting it on your children.


    Sure they love their children – just not as much as they love their money.

  • Ymarsakar

    It’s a good thing they negotiated, otherwise the lawyers would have taken 50% or 90% of the proceedings.

  • Ron19

    After growing up with Ann Landers, and continuing in adulthood to read her and her sister Dear Abbey, I concluded that to them, especially Ann in her own divorce. in the end the only important thing was getting the money.

    When Ann, after a year or so of writing columns that seemed like she barely cared about her readers’ problems, finally told us what happened when her husband announced to her that he had been having an affair for some time, and wanted a divorce.  She went “Well!” and stalked off in a huff.  All this advice she had been giving for years about talking it over, trying to reconcile, forgiving, etc., she didn’t even bother with.  Just fast forward to the settlement, please, and never darken my doorstep again.

    I stopped reading her column.

    Several years later I noticed in her sister’s column her readers were no longer married but just living together for years, alcoholism had been replaced by doing drugs, and none of the complaints about the relationship had changed a whit in the other details.

    After all those years on how to end a marriage but not how to prepare for one, I, too got divorced.  For my next (current) marriage I read and talked to people and listened to even more people, and got back to God after 30 years away.  I went about looking for my second wife in an entirely different manner.  She and I have been married to each other for over a decade now.  We still have problems, but I have an entirely different attitude about them, and I deal with problems based on whether or not I can do something about it.