In Marin County, spanking a child is a very dangerous activity. Although spanking is not illegal, it’s enough to entangle you with Child Protective Services and, from that moment on, parenting life as you know it is over. Despite the danger, when my kids were little, I spanked them. With two unguided missiles, sometimes the only way I could get control over the situation was a quick smack. With a four year old, reasoning doesn’t work; taking away privileges is too time-attenuated; and my kids didn’t care about time-outs. A quick spanking relieved my anger and gave them a very quick lesson in cause and effect (cause: naughty; effect: spanking).
It turns out now that my secret forays into old-fashioned discipline were a gift to my children:
Children who are smacked by parents often turn out more successful than those who have not, research has found.
The study concluded that children who had been physically disciplined when they were young, between the ages of 2 and 6, were performing better as teenagers on almost every measure that was taken into consideration than those who had never been smacked.
It was only in cases where it continued beyond the age of 12 that the children were found to be affected negatively, resulting in a dip on performance indicators.
The results of the US-based study undermines the efforts of various campaigners who have been trying to have physical punishment outlawed in the UK, who have claimed that it causes long-term damage to the children.
Read the rest here.
I only wish I could have been able to smack them on a more regular basis when they were really naughty little kids. (Not beat, smack.) As it was, because of the dangers inherent in corporal punishment, the situation had to be very extreme before I resorted to spanking. I think my life would have been easier and, I think, they might have been more disciplined now.Email This Post To A Friend
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