Candace Owens has a nasty habit of telling blacks that they’re good enough and smart enough not to define themselves as victims dependent on government.
Candace Owens was wrongly shamed for asking a question about childlessness and angry, bitter women like Sarah Silverman, Chelsea Handler, and Kathy Griffin.
I’m on the verge of being an empty-nester and I couldn’t be happier. I never wanted children and I really hated raising children. Being child-free will be lovely. That sounds pretty awful, doesn’t it? But that’s just the beginning; it’s not the end.
Here’s the really important thing: Despite being a Foghorn Leghorn kind of person about children, I don’t regret having children. Not one little bit. It’s not just that I love my children and am proud of the people they became. It’s also that having children was the best thing that could have happened to me.
At the most obvious level, children forced me to grow up. As long as I was childless, I could enjoy a perpetual adolescence, one in which I always came first. Sure, I was able to get through college and graduate school, and to hold a responsible job, but at the end of the day, I did it all for me. I got up in the morning for me, prepared food for me, went to work for me and, during my non-working hours, did things that made me happy.
Nothing much changed when I got married. My husband and I, although we worked very hard at demanding jobs, nevertheless tailored our lives to our wants, our needs, and our desires. Instead of being all about me, life now was all about us.
But when the kids came along . . . oh, my! Suddenly, it was all and entirely about them. As long as they were little, everything was about the absolute necessity of fulfilling their core physical needs: Feeding them, keeping them clean, getting them to sleep, keeping them physically safe, and imbuing them with emotional stability and love. Even when they weren’t babes in arms, my children’s needs continued for many years. As they got older, and their immediate physical needs lessened, there were new needs, not the least of which was the driving middle-class need to give them the best academic and extra-curricular opportunities possible.
The reality is that, with kids, self-indulgence ceased being a lifestyle and became a very rare privilege. I sorely missed being able to sleep through the night (a skill I never remastered, even after my kids ceased to be babies), I missed privacy, I missed having a minute to myself, I missed a quiet home. In other words, I missed the “me, me, me” lifestyle I had so enjoyed.
Also, unlike other mothers in the circles in which I now found myself, there was no offsetting compensation in the form of enjoying children. I don’t like children. I find them dull. Childish games, the ones for the ten and under set, are dull — something I felt when I was a child too (explaining my status as a social outcast). Kids and their games start getting interesting when they’re in their teens, so I at least had the blessing of enjoying my kids more with every passing year, rather than hating the teen years.
I also don’t find childishly lisping voices charming, and their innocent delight in the world does nothing for me. That is, I do not look on the world with fresh eyes because I have a child at my side. In this, I disagree with Jordan Peterson, who thinks that people should have children for the sheer pleasure of being around their sense of wonderment.
For me, when it came to children, they were sheer mental and physical drudgery. All those people who said to me, “Cherish these moments because you’ll miss them when they’re gone,” were wrong. I didn’t cherish them and I don’t miss them.
Still, as I said when I opened this essay, I love my children, I’m proud of who they’ve become, and I like them now and look forward to having them in my life for many decades to come. They were worth the effort and they forced me to be a mature person who moved beyond living only for herself and her selfish pleasures. Maturity is a much more enjoyable quality than adolescent selfishness. Interestingly, just today, Matt Walsh made the same point from the male perspective, although he saw marriage, not just having children, as part of that trajectory: [Read more…]
The Jordan Peterson event I attended was a “happening” that made me think Americans are craving a spiritual Great Awakening that will bind us as a nation.
For some time now I have had running through my brain the thought that America needs a Great Awakening along the lines of the First Great Awakening in 1730s and 1740s. Large segments of America are suffering from spiritual malaise.
America’s inner cities are in a state of despair and disrepair, plagued by high crime, high poverty, missing fathers, and a general sense of apocalyptic failure. The inner cities, though, are only the most visible symptom of a nationwide disease of the soul.
In small cities across America’s heartland, people who watched their jobs vanish, their communities disintegrate, and their status as worthwhile individuals dribble away have turned to drink and drugs. Once shiny little town are now squalid ghettos.
Although they are dressed better and have more money, many of America’s youth show the same signs of moral and spiritual decay. Both males and white people are told that they are inherently evil, making redemption impossible. Across the spectrum of genders, colors, and socio-economic status, young people are relentlessly indoctrinated into believing that their country is a greedy, oppressive place, guilty of sins past and present, and that the world is facing an apocalyptic ending as boiling seas rise and inundate parched land.
This darkness in the American soul is the inevitable end point of 50 years of cultural Marxism pounding relentlessly away in all of our institutions. We’re currently in free-fall mode, but the bottom is getting rapidly closer — and if you want to get a glimpse into this bottom, look to Europe, which is years ahead of us when it comes to surrendering its institutions over to the cultural Marxists.
England, which gave us the ideas of individual liberty and free speech has become an Orwellian nation in which speech is tightly policed, honest citizens are disarmed (and “disknifed,” although the acid still flows freely), the borders are opened to people whose values are antithetical to traditional British notions about freedom, and the cultural institutions have allied themselves with the most oppressive ideologies, whether Islam or Marxism.
England is not alone, although it’s the most interesting to watch given that our Bill of Rights is a direct descendant of England’s 1689 Bill of Rights. The cultural Marxist claim that western civilization is inherently flawed thanks to colonialism, racism, and sexism (all of which are the poisonous fruit of the Judeo-Christian tradition), has battered Western European nations into a suicidal level of intellectual submission.
The European ruling classes believe that their nations can redeem themselves only through catastrophically destructive immigration policies. This same ruling class also believes that, when the knives flash and the blood flows, no matter the carnage on the streets, the leaders will be protected behind the high walls they’ve erected for themselves in their mansions and elite enclaves. They’re wrong, of course, but that false sense of security is what allows them to use their people as a human sacrifice on the altar of cultural Marxism.
Keep in mind that we in America know that immigration is not inherently bad. For centuries, we successfully invited into our country people who valued our institutions and wanted to assimilate so that they could experience all the blessings a free citizenry can enjoy.
Today, though, both at home and abroad, too many new immigrants have a different attitude. Many have been infected with Marxism, so they seek Western benefits without contributing to Western weal. Especially in Europe, many immigrants are coming as conquerors, not seekers. The millions who are flooding that continent, whether legally or illegally, despise the very culture that is welcoming them and intend to destroy it. Talk about using fire to purify past sins.
Having had 50 years to wreak havoc on the Western tradition, the cultural Marxists are very close to bringing our institutions to dangerous tipping points. Now that our systems face imminent collapse, we do not have 50 years to fix the problem. We need to fix it now. [Read more…]
What happens when Kanye West, an incredibly famous black man, announces that blacks are allowed to like Trump? The Leftist political paradigm cracks.
I am a hopelessly un-hip, white, middle-aged woman. Up until the last few days, I’ve known three things about Kanye West: He’s a black rap or hip-hop musician (not sure which), he’s married to one of the Kardashians, and he’s fabulously successful. Good for him. That’s the American dream (except, maybe, for the Kardashian bit, which is only some people’s idea of a dream).
Oh, and I’ve also known that Kanye is remarkably unfiltered. A friend reminded me that, in 2009, Kanye objected to a VMA award that Taylor Swift received because he thought it should have gone to Beyonce. He was also not above comparing himself to the crucified Christ, although I think that’s more about shock-value product promotion than anything else.
Mostly, though, it seems that Kanye is pure id — there’s no dissimulation with Kanye. What he thinks is how he acts.
All those factors — his fame within the black music community, his high-profile generally amongst both blacks and hip people of other ethnicities, and his willingness to be unfiltered — came together in a beautiful way when Kanye tweeted support for Candace Owens, a gorgeous, intelligent young black woman who has taken the red pill, left the blue pill plantation on which Democrats parked blacks, and become a rock star on YouTube and the conservative campus lecture circuit:
I love the way Candace Owens thinks
— KANYE WEST (@kanyewest) April 21, 2018
Proggies across America, especially in the entertainment industry, were horrified. So Kanye the unfiltered provocateur doubled down and turned many Americans into Dragon Energy believers. We may not know what Dragon Energy is, but for too many people forced through identity politics to support the Democrat party, Dragon Energy has the whiff of political freedom about it: [Read more…]
Even as I introduced you to Candace Owens, long-time anti-SJWers started accusing her of lying about herself. Is Owens a convert or are we being conned?
A week ago, a friend sent me an email introducing me to Red Pill Black, aka Candace Owens, who’s created thoughtful, well-produced, charming, and funny videos starring herself, a lovely young black woman getting fed up with the Progressive party line and the victim hierarchy and, instead, looking at the world unmediated through the warped Progressive lens. I watched her videos and was impressed, so yesterday I put up a post about Candace Owens.
My post included a long Rubin Reports video interview with Owens. In the interview, she explains that, when she was fundraising for an anti-bullying website, SJWs came out of the woodwork, threatened her with doxing, and led to her political epiphany. It’s a compelling story.
That very night, when I was looking for an old pop tune on YouTube, my YouTube feed suggested two brand new videos about the “real” Candace Owens. Both contend that Owens is running an elaborate con to get money for her website. The real kicker is the claim that (a) her “anti-bullying” website is in fact a doxing site and (b) she is running an elaborate con to get funding from credulous conservatives who are excited to have a young, personable black woman on their side of the ideological divide.
This morning, Servo1969, in a comment to my post, raised the same point — namely, that a few reputable young anti-Social Justice Warrior types are deeply suspicious of Owens. Servo1969 makes no accusations; he just offers data. [Read more…]
While we old folk are focused on the MSM, Red Pill Black (aka Candace Owens) and other young people are spreading the conservative gospel via lively videos.
A few months ago, I wrote about some heartening information: There is a very large population of young conservatives in their twenties and thirties, who are invisible to older folks because their medium is videos, rather than the written word.
We older folk see Milo Yiannopoulos and Steve Crowder, because they use the written word, but the energy is with these vloggers. As my young friend told me, they’re putting out videos that get hundreds of thousands of hits. Meanwhile, cable news thinks it’s a big thing when it gets a couple of million viewers each night (which is highest number Rachel Maddow has ever achieved on her best day).
One of the most charming and interesting conservative vloggers is Candace Owens, aka Red Pill Black, a young black woman who is funny, thoughtful, and very, very interesting. No wonder, then, that Owens has 147,000 subscribers — and that subscriber list came about as a result of only 14 videos to date.
Think about that: With almost no overhead, and a fairly limited inventory, Owens has 147,000 people who want to hear her talk on important subjects both delighting and vexing Americans today. Moreover, if you check out the Red Pill Black video line-up, you’ll see that between 250,000 and 500,000 people, on average, take the time to listen to what Owens has to say. WOW! I would kill to have even a small percentage of her audience. Rachel Maddow would probably kill for that too.